SHORT REFLECTIVE ACCOUNTS OF SIGNIFICANT LIFE EXPERIENCES

As our topic says, we not only have to write about experiences but it has an adjective SIGNIFICANT which gives the topic a new shape. We not only have to write about experiences but we have to write about Significant Experiences of our lives. So here I want to jot down something not very pleasant  but something which it taught me a lot. We all have different phases in our lives from kindergarten to school to college till the post graduation madness and friends. With time everything changes from thinking to friends to habits to personality. As we grow up we develop (physically, emotionally and mentally). As children we all are in a protective shell in our houses and schools too. Regular interactions between the teachers and parents are held in order to know the child’s progress and behavior in the class room. Teachers know each and every child personally in the class she is aware of all his negative and positive things, teacher shapes a student accordingly. School became a second home, being in the same school for 14 long years from nursery till 12th was a great journey. Every day was a new day to learn and to grow. Teachers in my school never believed in marks they did not judge a student by his/her marks rather they tried to teach their students the meaning of life so that understand life and its aspects because ultimately life is much more than scoring good marks. What a time school time was everything was so smooth but when I looked up at the college students I always wanted to be like them. Their style, attitude and the freedom they always attracted me towards them. Being a student of class 12th I knew that I am going to live that life after some time. Finally the school farewell day had come, I didn’t know what to feel . I was nervous for the examinations excited for the college life and equally sad for leaving the school. A month after the farewell board exams happened. After that started the college admission time and that was till date most exhausting time ever which lasted till 4/5 days. Every day I went to a new college, met new teachers and students figuring out what course from which college will be my priority. Went to a number of college but at last Gargi college which was the best college of Delhi University gave me what I wanted so finally I took admission in Gargi college which was not less than a dream to me. The next step was the orientation of Gargi which was on 23rd July 2011, that was the first time when I actually felt that yes I am now a college student . Being a friendly person by nature I made a lot of friends in the first week itself which added to the fun of the college life. Every day I went to the college sat at Mithas for hours and hours. I was being street smart , I knew how to deal with people but somewhere I was drifting away from the bookish knowledge. I hardly attented any classes, did not know what teacher taught which subject, had no idea what was happening in the class. All this continued for some months my chilled out attitude towards curriculum was harming me but I did not realize it at that time I continued with the same routine. Life was now Mithas and friends. A month before the first semester I thought of studying and getting regular to the classes. I thought it was as easy as to go and sit in the class but I never thought beyond that .when I got to know the actuall scenario I realized that I have done a major mistake for which I had to pay I wanted to do everything in a month assignments ,presentations ,classes ,attendance. I began to panic now I had this fear that I would fail and I never wanted a failure tag on me. As everyone says you get what you sow, because of short attendance and bad performance in the semester I failed. After the results were out I didn’t know what to do and how to tell it to my parents but somehow I managed to do so. Parents and relatives were after my life as if I had done some crime and now I can get nothing in life. Those six months while I was at home all the time, they were disgusting to me. I didn’t know what do. I had changed I was no more the earlier Devangana. I started to dislike myself. At that point I felt that now my life is over, I can’t a good job and family after marriage because after all I was a failure. As time passed and I digested the fact that I have to be at home for some months during that time I thought of reading some books. I went to my grandfather and asked for some help he was very happy, he told me that this is my first step in the positive direction (though I did not understand it at that time but now do ) . He asked me to choose authors like Vivekananda, khushwant Singh, Louis. L Hay and Dr.A.P.J Abdul Kalam. I started reading books after reading a good amount of books I learnt that I don’t have to be ashamed of what happened that year rather I should take a leason from it. I was positive in my mind now I knew how to fix things. I was trying hard to change myself because I knew that The key of success is hidden in your daily routine, until and unless you don’t change what you do daily you can’t succeed. Therfore I managed to turn this negative incident to a positive one and I promised myself that I would never repeat this again in my life. A good leason which I learnt from failing an year was that mark sheet of one year cannot decide my future and life is much more than failing or passing the exams . if it happened it happened for a reason and today I am glad that it happened because that year gave me a lot of leasons which I have with myself for the entire life. And I can myself see immense change in me. The new “I” is way better than the older “I”. Now I have enough brains to balance two things which I failed to do earlier

OBSERVATIONS OF LIFE SITUATIONS THAT EVOKE QUESTIONS AND RESPONSES

We live in a society and millions of things happen around us, some inspire us , some make us laugh and some force us to QUESTION . There are times when you ask you ask questions to yourself. Mostly it is something depressing and unfortunate that makes us question. It can also be called as an Inner debate because here we are the one who puts up questions and we ourselves answer those questions. Sometime back even I was experienced the same situation.

Friends are a major part of life and today I believe that those people are lucky who are blessed with best friends. Friends who are with you in thick and thins and within every aspect of life.

I too was blessed with an amazing friend named Pratysha Ghildiyal , I was friends with her since last 14 years I knew her from the very first day of school. She was in my class and my house, we lived nearby we were together all the time in school together , tuitions and playgrounds we had common friend circle. We were not just a part of each other’s life but we were each other’s life.

We grew up together. Sadly we were in different colleges but we met daily. We used to chill out in the evenings together.

One day we decided to go to CP and do some shopping, Like any other day we met we had some good time together. While driving back from CP she asked me to drop her at Noida Mod as she had some work there, the roads were full cars, busses and trucks I asked her if she wants me to drop her home but she denied and she left. After an hour my old classmate called me up, after his call I didn’t know what to do how to react. I was just blank. He told me that Pratysha is no more and she died in a road accident. I couldn’t believe what he said or maybe I didn’t want to believe what I heard. I went to her house immediately and I saw my friend lying on the floor covered with a white cloth which had turned red till then. I didn’t know what to do. I just sat down and all those 14 years of friendship and togetherness ended. I had a picture of the time we had spent together. Her parent were crying like anything and I didn’t know how to console then because I myself was not in a state to do so.

Later I got to know the excat thing what happened there, she was hit by a HCL private bus.

There were about 20 to 30 people in the bus and nobody had the guts to help her. A girl called her up her father and it took her father reached the accident place after 40 minutes. For 40 minutes she was lying on the road crying for help but no one came forward to help her. People passing by stopped their cars looked at her and went. Nobody came forward.

Her father took her to the hospital but the hospital denied to admit her. She was full of injuries and her father to her to 3 different hospitals trying to save her precious life. But I think her life didn’t mean anything to anyone else. As a result she died. According to me it was not only my friend who died but I think that our humanity has died.

This incident shattered me.

During and after all this I had a lot of questions in my mind, I wanted to know why did it happen. I wanted to find out the hidden reasons.

The first major question which came into my mind was –

·      WHY DIDN’T ANYONE TAKE A STEP FORWARD TO HELP HER?

If anyone is dying on the road and crying for help then people will not help her only because they don’t want to get into any problems. As it is always said ‘if you help a person who has met with an accident, you are putting yourself in a problem’, but is this thought soo strong that you will let anyone die but will not go and help the person.

All the people were present at that moment they could see how serious she was, if they would have taken her to the hospital then she might have survived. Isn’t a life precious.

I would say that in place of pratysha it could be anyone, so what should we all do?

STOP the car SEE what’s happening and then START the car again to move ahead.

Being a responsible citizen is it not our responsibility to help others, even she was someone’s daughter, sister, friend why don’t we think about their families.

It’s been 2 years since this happened and her mother is still in a shock she can’t believe that her daughter is no more

·      SHE WAS TAKEN TO A HOSPITAL, WHY DIDN’T THE HOSPITAL ADMIT HER?

After her father got to know about the accident he took her to hospital but the staff refused to admit her. Giving an excuse that it’s an accident case and you have not informed the police therefore by law we can’t admit her. The second excuse they gave was that we don’t have proper equipments to treat her. Seriously? You are running a big hospital and you don’t even have equipments, then what kind of a hospital it would be.

It was a small clinic which admitted her but till then she had lost her life.

Nower days even the hospital does not want to get into all this and they want to stay away from this. It’s a sad truth of our society but yes it happens.

·      HAVE I LEARNT ANYTHING FROM THIS INCIDENT?

When I ask myself if I have leant something from this then I would say that I surely have because when you experience something it is only then when you actually know how it feels. Me losing my best friend, it showed me the true mirror of our society and how selfish people can actually be. After this I have promised me if I see someone dying on the road I will not just stop and look at him but I will try to help her. If i want to change something so why not to start it.

            Be the change you wish to see In the wold

                           MAHATMA GANDHI

CHANGING EDUCATIONAL SYSTEM

As times changes everything changes with it. The most important feature of our society of our society is education. Education is one single thing which shapes the man. Everyone should have the privilege to get educated and make their lives better. But what education is better in which you get ultimate bookish knowledge or that time of gurukul education in which students were free to choose their own line of interest. These days parents Wnt their children to go good in every field be it music dance painting or studies, they want a child to be an All rounder. I’ve seen first standard students going to the tuitions, why is so?

 Because of increasing competition or because their parents want them to be brilliant since childhood There are some things which i really want to question ,

There is a new fashion of not failing students till class 8^th soo is it actually benefiting them or it is just giving them a fearless atmosphere where they know that whatever they do will be  digested by the teacher because at last they will not be failed. School is a place where students get to learn but these days they are going on a different track. No matter how good or bad a student is they all will be equal till  point and after that when they are actually set free till then it is very difficult to cope up with others.

Keeping the school education aside let me jump on the college education where recently a major change has come of making the b.ed course for 2 years. There are a lot of questions regarding the same . Some students say that now we have to waste one more year and do the same course which was was earlier done in one year. Is it so ? Are students actually wasting their year.

I have a different view regarding the same because i think if the  educationalists have made this change then there has to be some major reason behind it .According to me we are lucky that we are getting this opportunity to do a one year course in two years because automatically if the syllabus remains same and time pan increases we are getting extra time to learn.